Working Throught PCOS Regrets
I am trying to work through a lot of regret and guilt over not being able to have our second child earlier because of my PCOS. You are such an expert on PCOS that I thought I would get your insight.
I did not know about the supplement Inositol to help with ovulation and egg quality for PCOS until the month before getting pregnant with our second child. I had tried Clomid, Metformin, IUIs and IVFs and then gave up not wanting to have false hope I kept telling myself. Of course doctors are clueless, which I relied on.
Our first child, conceived through IVF after years of infertility, was 7 when I got pregnant with our second child. We were in shock that it had happened naturally or at all after trying so long. Earlier we went through three failed IVFs trying to have a second child and they said I had poor egg quality that I did not know was associated with PCOS so I thought I was completely infertile.
I gave up for several years not knowing what to do until I thought I would try one last time to get pregnant after all adoption options had failed and looked for any new info about PCOS online and found the PCOS supplements I never heard about. I had tried supplements for general fertility but not for PCOS, which I did not know existed. One supplement I had tried was Saw Palmetto along with Vitex, which never worked.
I just lost so much time and our children are farther apart in age that I had wanted because of my PCOS. I just kick myself for not finding the information earlier and the what if's haunt me.
I guess my question is do you know of women who get on supplements for PCOS like Inositol and still do not get pregnant or it takes a lot longer than a month to work? The first month I found the Inositol and a pre-diabetic multivitamin that had higher Chromium and tried Saw Palmetto again I got pregnant. (I guess there is a recent study that shows Chromium does not really work well though so that at least made me feel better.)
But I think if only I would have had this info earlier and knew what I know now about PCOS then. I see it as the magic bullet I never knew about but maybe I could not have recreated it earlier. Maybe my diet was extra good that month or I was exercising more. I guess there are A LOT of variables with PCOS -- right?
Anyway, I am just trying to get peace with what happened to me with all of it and believe that maybe it might not have worked earlier and things might have just perfectly aligned for once with PCOS being so complex and unpredictable. I hear that PCOS symptoms can get less severe over time too and maybe if I did all of it earlier it would not have worked? Let me know your thoughts. Thanks.